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Sex toys designed to stimulate, stretch, strengthen and enhance are here to slay

Lads, lads, lads… I know what you’re thinking. The best sex toys for gays? Isn’t that what your friends and neighbours are for?

You’re probably picturing a basic bitch bunny-style pink vibrator and thinking how easy it is to crack one off using nothing but your grubby little mitts. But listen, just between us boys, the sex tech industry’s game is STRONG – and toys today are designed to do a whole lot more than just get you off.

Whether you’re on your own, crying in the CrossFit showers, exploring with your partner or entertaining a select group of friends, sex toys designed to elevate, stimulate, heighten, stretch, strengthen, prolong and enhance are very much here to slay.

I and a group of willing helpers have generously taken one – and sometimes more – for the team and road-tested the best sex toys for men on the market. I’m no expert, but I have just personally trialled 30 gadgets, so read on for my no-holes-barred findings...

In a hurry? Here are the bestsellers. Keep scrolling for the full list.

• Best Vibrating Butt Plug - Booty Buddy Vibrating Butt Plug, £19.99 • Best Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Real-Feel Suction Male Masturbator, £89.99 • Best Remote Control Prostate Massager - Lelo Hugo, £189.00 • Best Vibrating Stroker - Desire Luxury Vibrating Male Stroker, £79.99 • Best Thrusting Prostate Massager - Lelo Loki Wave, £189.00 • Best Flexible Butt Plug - PleX with Flex, £89.99

So, before we get started, ‘gay sex toys’ is one of those slightly troubling phrases like ‘women’s lit’, ‘men’s razors’ or ‘cost of living’. All the toys I have tried are aimed at men - real men that is, who have either a penis or a vagina or an arsehole or a combination of all three.

Some of the gay sex toys I reviewed would like to get all up in your business. They want to take what the B52s called the Dirty Back Road; pull up to your bumper; hit that magic spot that only a female god with a wicked sense of humour would have put up there, and then not text you back.

Others want to bottom for you, and will offer to simulate a blowjob, give you a connoisseur's hand shandy or even help you improve and maintain erections and learn to control orgasms. As with actual human men, too few want to do both.

So full disclosure: I am not that kinky. Feel free to disappear down the rabbit hole of gimp masks, nipple clamps and more online, but here, I’m sticking to some fun fundamentals everyone can and should try.

I’ve been pushed, pulled, prodded and pleased in more ways than you can shake a stick at, all to improve my stick shaking. I’ve tried high-tech dick strokers and butt plugs; prostate massagers and blowjob simulators; cock rings, dildos and more, all aiming to push pleasure buttons and help you explore. The choice can be overwhelming, but as with so many things in life, you really do have to suck it and see.

Some toys on the list are best enjoyed with someone you love (or have just met) at the helm, while others can literally replace the need for human interaction. Price-wise, sex toys range from Breakfast at Tiffany’s to bar snacks at Wetherspoon’s, and I’ve tried to include something for every budget.

From Sinful's Prostate Vibrator to Arcwave's Pleasure Air Stroker, keep scrolling for our pick of the best sex toys for gay, bi, queer men and everything in between...

Coming in at an absolute bargain bang-to-buck price, this adorable little pocket rocket from Lovehoney proves that size genuinely isn’t everything. Small enough to leave room in your crossbody for your keys, phone and room odouriser, but powerful enough to rub you up just the right way, the different settings and slim, ergonomic shape make this the perfect toy for those who are new to anal play.

Unintimidating and genuinely charming, the Booty Buddy slides in easily and gives you a taste of the good stuff, even if you’re new to anal play or just dusting off the cobwebs.

If you’ve always hankered after a high-end wank tube that looks like a 1980’s thermos flask, you have just struck sex toy gold. Inside the Blowmotion Real-Feel Suction Male Masturbator (bit of a mouthful, eh?), a ribbed silicone sleeve gives a firm grip meant to simulate a human throat. But really, it will do a bang-up job of shaking you to orgasm via three suction patterns and four distinct modes of vibration.

Designed for ‘most penis sizes’, the five-inch canal might not work for everybody. But as we all know, lube is your friend and done right the Blowmo (c’mon) makes a sweet, sticky, thoroughly hot mess.

To the sex toy designer who decided a prostate massager should come with a small, hand-held remote control that allows you to easily cycle through multiple pulsing rhythms, speeds and strengths: thank you. As neither a stage-seven yogi nor a circus contortionist, I like a remote. And it made using it with a friend a LOT kinkier.

Sinful do a good line in Scandi-inspired, sleek-looking toys and the Force prostate vibe has 11 different vibration settings, while the remote works from up to 10 metres away. So, you can control it from another room, or even next door. Which, yes, is very hot.

Swedish brand Lelo takes sex tech seriously (go and watch the videos on the slick website for a mood board featuring crashing waves and writhing twinks). As a result, Lelo products are bougie, but they work. The prices are quite heaux couture too but hey, don’t you deserve it?

Hugo (don’t be put off by the slightly Tory-sounding name) had by far the most skin-like, luxurious texture of any prostate massager we tried, and the two powerful motors (one in each end) and various settings give it enough oomph to get your knees-a-knocking. Again, props for the remote, making it ideal for solo play as well as with company.

So, this ‘Male Stroker’ is actually a silicone cock ring with a large, thick, phallic handle. Which suggests it could potentially have twenty-one functions if you were in a pinch. You can cycle through 12 speeds and 8 patterns of vibration using the controls on the handle, sending pulsing, buzzing sensations through your shaft and giving you the kind of erection we in the industry call, ‘stonking’.

There’s a nice element of control here, so if you’re interested in some dom/sub/edging play, this is a very good addition to your dungeon. I mean bedroom.

I was a little sceptical of this at first; another innovative, high-tech sex toy, it’s billed as the ‘world’s first pleasure air stroker’, promising ‘unique pulsating airwaves (that) stimulate sensitive Pacinian pleasure receptors in the frenulum.’ Which sounds like those Gillette adverts flogging seven-bladed bro-razors that look like motorbikes and move like spaceships.

The truth is, the Arcwave Ion wanks you off. And it does so with a light-touch, ergonomic handheld device that fits snugly in a discreet charger when not in use. Pacinian pleasure receptors aside, the sensation is legitimately unlike anything I have ever experienced, and as long as you are sized appropriately to fit inside it, this clever sex toy will indeed blow you away.

Another high-end, tasteful bum toy from Lelo, the Loki Wave comes in black (almost all sex toys for men are black) or a rather nice Klein blue, for hot, high-powered Avatar roleplay. As with their Hugo prostate massager, the price might be eye-watering but so is the motor power. Unlike Hugo though, the Loki 'moves back and forth to beckon you toward the absolute pinnacle of pleasure' (it vibrates and grinds like a finger rubbing your prostate). Dual motors perk up your perineum and prostate and the overall feel is cohesive and fully realised.

At the top end of the price spectrum, I feel like a remote control would be a great addition for solo use, but some things are best shared, and as an accessory to use with a partner or friends it’s hard to beat.

So, the idea here seems to be that you’ll do anything with a pulse. Deceptively simple in appearance (it looks like it belongs on an expensive, off-road bike), the Pulse from Hot Octopuss invites you to do many things, one of which is to cancel your plans and edge away the evening while your significant other controls your orgasm from afar through an app.

It’s a snug fit (big boys, be wary), and the oscillating movement (with 5 rhythms and 8 different intensity levels) are enough for an intense, even hands-free orgasm. If that isn’t enough for you, the app allows for some very enjoyable power play options and even gives you access to VR and real interactive porn.

The humble butt plug gets a glow up like the geeky girl wowing everyone at prom. PleX with flex is a modestly sized anal probe, so might not measure up for the real size queens, but it’s great for those game for exploring. A straight man, for example, with little experience of the mystic pleasures of the tradesman’s entrance. A shame then that none of them could possibly be reading this feature about gay sex toys. (Hi, Harry.)

Bendy for all the angles, the real game-changer here is its claim to literally put the bass in your walk, with ‘patented Treble and Bass Technology for men, women and everyone in-between.’ In practise, used correctly, the bass will, and pardon my French here, make you cum like a train.

Jett resembles a sort of dystopian robot sea creature with giant, silver, dangling balls. Generally, I feel like if you have to read the instructions to figure out what something is for, it’s not a great start. But once we worked out how to use it, we were not disappointed. A silicone ring goes around the part of your penis just below the head, and the silver balls vibrate with a deep, rumbly bass and high frequency treble. The idea here is specifically to stimulate the frenulum (the bridge of tissue connecting the head of your penis to you foreskin).

Every penis is special, as you know, and if your gigglestick is more sensitive towards the tip, Jett will get you into all the best kinds of trouble. With several settings to work through or customise, this is a fantastic way to really explore the possibilities of peen pleasure, and see what your anaconda do.